Prayers for a Husband Addicted to Porn

QUESTION: What are some prayers for a husband addicted to porn?

ANSWER:

If you feel your husband may be struggling with this addiction, we encourage you to use these prayers for a husband addicted to porn. We also encourage you to find support through your local church or through these resources.

“Dear Lord, if my husband is addicted to porn, would your Holy Spirit convict him that this is wrong, moving him to confess his sin to you and to me. I pray that he will quit this destructive sin. Will you please forgive him and give me your strength to forgive him and not hold a grudge against him? Lord, help me not to unintentionally act differently towards him or push him away. Help us to discuss it so I can help him.”¹

“Dear Lord, I believe my husband is addicted to porn. Please reveal to me if I in any way contributed to his addiction -- through continual rejection of him emotionally or physically. If I haven’t contributed, then please spare me from feelings of guilt. Help me not to just intellectually know that I’m still a woman, but to feel it in my spirit. Keep me from inappropriate behavior with other men to prove to myself that I’m still very desirable. I know Satan desires for me to seek some kind of revenge against my husband. Help me to remember that You will discipline him and You don’t need my help. Help us discover what caused his addiction. Please help my husband to get life-changing help so our marriage can be better than it was before his porn addiction. Lord, help me to help him.”

“My husband is addicted to porn! I can’t believe it, but it seems to be true. I pray that I’m wrong and he isn’t involved in this addiction. But Lord, if he is addicted to porn, please restore our marriage. I feel betrayed, deceived, and rejected. Without you, I don’t have the strength to even begin thinking about forgiveness. Yet, I know your heart is about grace and forgiveness. And I know your grace and forgiveness includes consequences to his sin, as well as accountability. I know that staying with him and helping him work through his addiction doesn’t mean I’m weak. Your Word actually says this is strength. Lord, give me one woman I can trust who won’t share our struggle with anyone else. Give me an appropriate way to share my pain, be it a person or hobby which won’t interfere with our marriage and family. Lord, most of all, reveal Yourself to me in the midst of all this. Show me Your greatness in the midst of this low point in our marriage.”

“Jesus, please give me the strength each day to continue loving my husband and helping him work through his addiction to porn. Remind me that biblical love isn’t an emotion, but an action, which is why You can command us to love even our enemies! I know my husband isn’t my enemy even though he sometimes acts like it. If I’m honest with myself, there are times I act like Your enemy and You don’t stop loving me. Thank You for that. Help me to imitate Your love to my husband. May he see You in me and may that motivate him even more to lean on You for the strength to overcome his addiction. Help me to humanly express Your love to him, resulting in the kind of intimacy we both want and You want for us!”

“Lord reveal to my husband that he is out of control and they he can’t cure himself. Show my husband that he idolizes sex. Reveal to him the reason he allowed himself to be addicted. Lord, help me to be supportive and not leave him. Help me not to blame myself because this happened.”

¹ Excerpt from Chapter 8: Pornography - The Kiss of Death, from the book, Keeping Your Wife Your Best Friend - clarenceshuler.org.